Moving in the Wrong Direction   

I love this whole resurgence of the feminist movement and yes, I believe Dr. Ford, but sometimes in the pursuit of righting all the wrongs we overthink things.

Like the song Baby It's Cold Outside. I love this song - so much so that I created a t-shirt with that text on it. And when I was trying to remember which version of the song I heard as a child, I ran into a whole slew of articles about the song. And they were calling it a date rape song.

Baby It's Cold Outside Ladies Tshirt in Teal

Romance Dance

Are we really at a point where we just assume that men (both real and in songs) are plotting out a date rape just because they are politely asking a girl to come inside??? OK - he may be a little persistent but she is flirting back and not leaving right away on her own accord. It's just depicting biology, that fun sexy romance dance.  

Musicologist Thomas Riis wrote, “Loesser can be said to have built his little tune into a miniature dramatic scene, a scena in the operatic sense, in which two characters and the nature of their relationship are fully sketched with efficiency and emotional clarity.”

And frankly, it's just beautiful. 

The Lyrics

I really can't stay (but baby, it's cold outside)
I've got to go away (but baby, it's cold outside)
This evening has been (been hoping that you'd drop in)
So very nice (i'll hold your hands, they're just like ice)

My mother will start to worry (beautiful what's your hurry?)
My father will be pacing the floor (listen to the fireplace roar)
So really I'd better scurry (beautiful please don't hurry)
But maybe just a half a drink more (put some records on while I pour)

The neighbors might think (baby, it's bad out there)
Say what's in this drink? (no cabs to be had out there)
I wish I knew how (your eyes are like starlight now)
To break this spell (i'll take your hat, your hair looks swell)

I ought to say, no, no, no sir (mind if I move in closer?)
At least I'm gonna say that I tried - What's the sense in hurting my pride?
I really can't stay - Baby don't hold out
Ah, but it's cold outside

I've got to get home, oh, baby, you'll freeze out there
Say, lend me your coat, it's up to your knees out there
You've really been grand, thrill when you touch my hair
Why don't you see, how can you do this thing to me?

There's bound to be talk tomorrow, think of my life long sorrow
At least there will be plenty implied, if you caught pneumonia and died
I really can't stay, get over that hold out
Ah, but it's cold outside
Oh, baby, it's cold outside
Oh, baby, it's cold outside


The version I remember the most is the one sung by Steve Lawrence and Eydie Gorme (probably from my mom playing it all the time. But my favorite version is the one from Elf :
And even if you want to focus on the fact that the song was popularized during a Mad Men type era, those of us who grew up hearing it never attached anything sinister to it. 
For several years activists have been proclaiming that the song should be "banned". Really? What would that involve? Burning records and digital files? Let's use our super girl powers for something a little more important! 

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